Monday, May 19, 2008

It's ok to fail

As I was driving Jonas home Sunday he was drawing pictures in the back seat, and he started pouting. It was something he did a lot of this weekend, but this is about his failure. I asked him what was wrong and he said he didn't like his drawing.

"It's ok to fail. You don't have to get it right the first time, or the next. In order to be really good at something you have to practice a lot and keep getting better. Uncle Teddy is good at drawing, but he wasn't always that way, he went to school and practiced a lot for many years before he got as good as he is.

I'm good on the computer, but I wasn't always this way, I've had to work really hard and study really hard to be as good as I am. And I run, and you know I run a lot, but I didn't run all winter, and I got worse at running. If you don't keep practicing something that you do, then you lose some of your ability to do it. You have to keep practicing in order to stay good.

It's ok to not like your drawing, just don't give up at it. It's ok to be upset"

Monologue over, but seriously, it's a lesson I want my kids to know, and know well. I want them to try to achieve, and I want them to fail. It's OK to fail, it's OK to not win, it's OK. But set your sights high, and when you get knocked down, get back up. It's not about how many times you get knocked down, it's abut how many times you can get back up and keep pushing, that's what winners are made of.