Step Families is a book that should be read by all of the parents that are involved in some way in a step family. Not just the step father/stepmother, but the parents outside of this as well. There are a lot of really good insights into different types of relationships that people have and how it affects the children. The reason the exes of the stepfamily should read it, is that they still play a very large role in the lives of the chlidren. I feel a lot better about things after having read this book. There are a lot of things that I know will come up down the road, and hopefully being aware that they could happen will help me be better prepared to deal with it.
Not that all knowledge comes from books, but a lot of experience that has already taken place can be put down in books and passed on. Sometimes it's better to learn from others mistakes than having to make them ourselves. This way, we can better ourselves without having to go through the struggles and low points that may have been part of the experience. Pick up a self-help book. Learn how to do something new, expand your mind.